I've subscribed to a couple of pregnancy info email lists and listening to pea in the podcast and the general consensus is that at 20 weeks I'm halfway there. This is supposed to be the time when Bassou makes his presence known with actual movements but I haven't felt anything (yet). Happily MoBob is now back from his trip, and we spent the weekend sleeping, unpacking, and catching up. He brought back some adorable tiny outfits that Bassou probably won't be able to wear until he's a year old.
On Friday night we went to a new-to-us Ethiopian restaurant with a few current colleagues/new friends. A lot of fun; one highlight was when everyone started exchanging "expensive veterinary bill" stories. Also the spouses didn't work in international development so it was really refreshing not to talk shop.
On Saturday we finally went on the tour of the labor & delivery department at George Washington University Hospital. Half the women in the group looked ready to pop soon, so I guess MB and I are super-prepared. We spent a few amusing minutes looking at the posters on the wall in the classroom demonstrating different positions for labor. Heck, I do a lot of those already just trying to get up from my bed. The facility is pretty nice. All the post-partum rooms are private, and some of the L&D rooms have a tub for labor. When we were looking at one of the post-partum rooms, the nurses wheeled up a pair of new parents and their baby. I just burst into tears. Crap. This is really happening.
On Sunday, I met a friend and former colleague for brunch, and then when I got home I was just so thrashed that I decided to take a nap instead of going to church, sadly missing the primary kids perform. I slept for a blissful four hours, and then conked out again at 9pm.
I think you're smart to tour early! I loved feeling prepared as much as possible since of course I knew there's so much about new babies that's just an experience and thus hard to prepare for.
It *is* really happening. He won't be a stranger soon. And you'll like him! It's crazy! Have you started working on his space/room/spot? It helped things feel real to me (and helped me feel prepared) to get that together. Of course we couldn't pick a name until the last minute so you are WAY ahead of us. You will be awesome.
And not that any one other person's experience really matters to yours but don't worry about not feeling him yet - I had an anterior placenta and hardly felt him at all even toward the end. Sometimes I could SEE my stomach moving slightly, but still barely felt it. Super weird.