meredith_eats wrote in "My Body: An Unexpected Triumph": in your journal or in the comments, write about one thing you love about yourself.
This is a difficult exercise for me because I have never felt as physically adept as I do intellectually. And yet during several periods of my life I was exceptionally active, most recently in Burkina Faso, when I was playing tennis nearly every day, or in Aspen, when I swam in snowy weather. I think of myself as a slug but I'm not as big of a slug as I think I am.
Maybe that's why I feel so comfortable in the developing world: big women are the ideal, the prize, and the standard. When I ask MoBob if he's noticed how much weight I've gained, he says no. But he comes from a culture where physically strong women are the norm. I'm a hothouse flower compared to his sturdy sisters and cousins.
So I will give overboard here and name two things I like about my body. *deep breath* My mouth because I think it's nicely shaped; I have a full lower lip and a good smile. My breasts because of their shape and their size and their symmetry. When I was in Peace Corps I was named the volunteer with the most beautiful breasts, so at least I have some external confirmation of that. *blush* Don't ask me how.
:) what a great post. I'm glad you shared that.
I've actually been thinking about body image myself. Ironically I feel I'm probably more comfortable in my own skin than I ever have been before, just when I'm bigger and more out of shape than I ever have been before! I used to be quite self-conscious, and while I don't think I'm cured exactly, I'm much happier being me.
One thing I like about myself? My hands. I talk with them (and consequently spill more things than I should on myself) and I generally have good nails without doing much about them. Perhaps also because hands are one of the things I notice about other people. I love watching how they hold them and move them.
Do you think that physical self-acceptance is something that comes with age, then?
I agree about the hands. One of the reasons I was physically attracted to MoBob was that he had working hands, but very gentle. Someone used to handling camels. :)
I think to a certain extent physical self-acceptance is easier with age -- as women in the US, we're no longer *expected* to be gorgeous all the time, although we do get some social "you're no longer desirable" baggage that goes along with that.
For me, I waver back and forth. I look at pictures of myself during periods when I was convinced that I was horribly ugly and I think "wow, I was really pretty then, what is wrong with me?" Sometimes I think "I wish I were that pretty now," but that feeling comes less and less often. Being physically successful (rollerderby) has certainly helped that feeling come less often.
On October 26th, 2006 05:57 pm (UTC), (Anonymous) replied:
I'm not sure whether it's age or something else. Every now and then I have an attack of insecurity or shyness, but mostly I'm much more comfortable these days, and maybe that is getting older or life experience or whatever you want to call it. I also think it has something to do with having good friends and support networks who have taught me to be confident in myself.
Hands can definitely be sexy. Strong but gentle is the best combination, not sure about the camels though ;)
I have never felt as physically adept as I do intellectually
Same here! Even normal things, like climbing into a tall SUV, can pose grave challenges for me. I remember a driver in Ireland asking me if I was drunk because I stumbled so many times while trying to get into the car. It was only 11 a.m.
'I have never felt as physically adept as I do intellectually'
I am 4 feet 10 inches tall - so yeah I can relate to your statement completely. But the flip side of being so short is that, most people somehow always allow you to get with murder (hehehe) coz you are always being underestimated.
What I like about myself... err.. my eyes, coz thanks to my mixed genes, they are a kinda large as well as a bit slanted... and my skin - which again, I have to thank good genes for.